Warning Signs for Guys

dv image 10What would you do if you thought your friend was in an abusive relationship?  Most of the time, violence in a relationship takes place when the couple is alone.  You might not see dramatic warning signs like black eyes and broken bones.  So how can you tell for sure?  For one thing, listen to your instincts.  You probably wouldn’t be worried without good reason.  Here are some signs to look for that might mean your friend is in trouble and needs help:

1. When your friend and their girlfriend are together, she calls your friend names or puts him down in front of other people.

2. The girlfriend acts extremely jealous when your friend talks to other girls, even when it is completely innocent.

3. Your friend apologizes for their girlfriend’s behavior and makes excuses for her.

4. Your friend frequently cancels plans at the last minute for reasons that sound untrue.

5. The girlfriend is always checking up on him, calling or paging him, and demanding to know where he has been and who he has been with.

6. You’ve seen her lose his tmeper, maybe even break or hit things when she’s mad.

7. He seems worried about upsetting her or making her angry.

8. He is giving up things that used to be important to him, such as spending time with friends or other activities, and is becoming more and more isoloated.

9. His weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically.  These could be signs of depression, which could indicate abuse.

10. He has injuries he can’t explain, or the explanations he gives don’t make sense.

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