Dating Pledge

I have the right to:

  • Always be treated with respect.
  • Ask for a date.
  • In a respectful relationship, you should be treated as an equal.
  • Refuse a date.
  • Be in a healthy relationship.  A healthy relationship is not controlling, manipulative, or jealous.  A healthy relationship involves honesty, trust, and communication.
  • Not be hurt physically or emotionally. You should feel safe in your relationship at all times. Abuse is never deserved and is never your fault. Conflicts should be resolved in a peaceful rational way.
  • Suggest activities and refuse activities, even if my partner is excited about them.
  • Refuse sex or affection at anytime. A healthy relationship involves making consensual sexual decision. You have the right to not have sex. Even if you have had sex before, you have the right to refuse sex for any reason.
  • Have my limits and values respected.
  • Have my own feelings and be able to express them.
  • Have friends and activities apart from my boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • Spending time by yourself, with male or female friends, or with family is normal and healthy.
  • End a relationship. You should not be harassed, threatened, or made to feel guilty for ending an unhealthy or healthy relationship. You have the right to end a relationship for any reason you choose.

I have the responsibility to:

  • Respect the limits of others.
  • Communicate clearly and honestly.
  • Determine my values.
  • Ask for help when I need it.
  • Evaluate my actions and decide whether they are good or bad for me.
  • Be considerate.
  • Set high goals for myself. 

I pledge to:

  • Always treat my boyfriend or girlfriend with respect.
  • Never hurt my boyfriend or girlfriend physically, verbally, or emotionally.
  • Respect my girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s decisions concerning sex and affection.
  • Not be controlling or manipulative in my relationship.
  • Accept responsibility for myself and my actions.


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